How can I get motivated and stick to a weight loss plan if I have no support system?
I’m 22 years old and weigh 251 lbs. I’m a stay at home mom, and taking online classes, so I don’t have much time on my hands. I always plan diets and exercise routines, but never stick to them. My husband doesn’t understand one bit. He says that I look fine and he loves me and finds me sexy no matter what I think about myself. I love him dearly, but he just doesn’t get it. We never have time to exercise together because we have 2 kids and he works 40 hours a week.
I have one friend, and she used to be big like me, but her boyfriend left her and she just quit eating and was really unhealthy for a long time, but now that she’s lost 100 lbs, she’s eating healthy and keeping the weight off. I just can’t do that. Even if I wanted to stop eating, I don’t think I could. I know it’s unhealthy and that’s not the route I want to take.
I just don’t have the willpower to do it on my own. I have no help, and I desperately need to lose weight. I can’t afford a gym membership and even if I could, I’d never have the time. I’ve always had really bad eating habits. I almost never eat anything before dinner, simply because I’m not hungry. Then it seems like I’m hungry all night long. I just don’t know how to get started on a weight loss plan that I will stick to. Any advice will be appreciated.
You and I sound so much alike, ‘cept I have 4 kids, and are a ‘bit’ older. My starting weight was 266 and I am down about 20 pounds in 10 weeks. (I took time off when we were on vacation.)
I have two things that have been helping me.
1) There is an online site called www.fitday.com. It can help you set weight loss/caloric intake/exercise goals, then help you track how you are doing with those goals. It will tell you how many calories you need per day to maintain or lose weight. You can input what you eat and how much you exercise (if any) then it tells you how many calories you have burned and how many you have left. It is free for the basic site but you can pay a monthly fee for some upgrades. I am sure there are other sites that are like this one, if it doesn’t appeal to you. There are online support groups too, but I haven’t tried one of those yet.
2) I have been using the SlimFast 3-2-1 plan. (THREE 100 calorie snacks per day, TWO of their meal bars/shakes, and ONE regular dinner per day.) It was really hard for the first couple of weeks, but has been getting easier. The main thing is that YOU HAVE TO EAT throughout the day. You may think you are doing good by not eating until dinner, but then your body is starving and you end up eating everything you see. You need to eat starting first thing in the morning to make your metabolism start burning calories — hungry or not! The fitday website helped my track the snacks/meals too.
One thing that I had to realize is that this is going to be a longterm mission. I didn’t get this way in a few months, so I cannot get ’slim’ in a few months. This is going to take a while. To be honest, I was too heavy to do much exercise other than trying to haul my behind around the block each evening. Now that I am down a few pounds I am able to move a bit more, so I am expecting a bit more ‘forward progress.’
If this old lady can do it, so can you!
July 27th, 2010 at 8:38 pm
I know how you feel i think you just need to keep reminding yourself that each day you stick to it your one day closer to your goal and just imagine all the things you want to wear that you cant now but could if you lost the weight , just think of all the events coming up where you will have to buy clothes and imagine the feeling of not having to worry about your stomach looking big or anything like that.
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July 27th, 2010 at 9:03 pm
Time to stop planning for diet and exercise and just do some activity every day and make small changes to your diet every week until it no longer requires effort.
No one can stop eating, that is silly. Why would you want to stop eating? Stop eating what you shouldn’t eat little by little.
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July 27th, 2010 at 9:31 pm
In my opinion, you do have a support system; your children! Being overweight can lead to serious health problems. Don’t you want to live as long as possible to be able to see your beautiful children grow up and become parents someday? I’m sure they want you to. If you lose weight and start living a healthy lifestyle, the benefits are endless. You’ll also feel better, not only about yourself, but in general. Since you can’t afford a gym membership which is completely understandable, maybe every morning, or whenever you get the chance, go for a walk. Slowly increase your distance day by day. Only eat when you’re really hungry; you know what helps me that i read in a magazine…when you think you’re hungry say to yourself, am i really hungry or just bored? would i eat an apple right now? if the answer is yes then youre hungry.. eat an apple (this is for in between meals by the way). if not, drink water or another zero calorie drink, read a book, take a walk or something until the craving goes away; believe me it works. also try looking up weight loss groups online, im sure there are plenty out there with people just like you who can support each other. i wish you the very best!!!
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July 27th, 2010 at 9:56 pm
You and I sound so much alike, ‘cept I have 4 kids, and are a ‘bit’ older. My starting weight was 266 and I am down about 20 pounds in 10 weeks. (I took time off when we were on vacation.)
I have two things that have been helping me.
1) There is an online site called http://www.fitday.com. It can help you set weight loss/caloric intake/exercise goals, then help you track how you are doing with those goals. It will tell you how many calories you need per day to maintain or lose weight. You can input what you eat and how much you exercise (if any) then it tells you how many calories you have burned and how many you have left. It is free for the basic site but you can pay a monthly fee for some upgrades. I am sure there are other sites that are like this one, if it doesn’t appeal to you. There are online support groups too, but I haven’t tried one of those yet.
2) I have been using the SlimFast 3-2-1 plan. (THREE 100 calorie snacks per day, TWO of their meal bars/shakes, and ONE regular dinner per day.) It was really hard for the first couple of weeks, but has been getting easier. The main thing is that YOU HAVE TO EAT throughout the day. You may think you are doing good by not eating until dinner, but then your body is starving and you end up eating everything you see. You need to eat starting first thing in the morning to make your metabolism start burning calories — hungry or not! The fitday website helped my track the snacks/meals too.
One thing that I had to realize is that this is going to be a longterm mission. I didn’t get this way in a few months, so I cannot get ’slim’ in a few months. This is going to take a while. To be honest, I was too heavy to do much exercise other than trying to haul my behind around the block each evening. Now that I am down a few pounds I am able to move a bit more, so I am expecting a bit more ‘forward progress.’
If this old lady can do it, so can you!
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